Mel Gibson: What Women DON’T Want!

“I deserve to be blown.”

Yes you do Mel..to kingdom come!

I bet Tiger Woods is relieved these days:

‘I’m not looking so bad now, am I? And you thought I was bad to MY girl.  I may be a whore but I never called her one!’

There are bad boyfriends and then there are Mel Gibson bad boyfriends.  From now on, I will be looking out for friends who I may not realize are “dating a Mel”.

Are you “dating a Mel”?  If you are, you need to kick his ass to the curb but not literally of course because if you do, he will then “put you in a fuckin rose garden…because [he’s] capable of it. You understand that?”

Everyone is innocent until proven guilty but Mel is looking awfully guilty right about now.

It is more than a little bizarre to remember that Mel Gibson once starred in a movie entitled “What Women Want”. 

Yehhh…not so much.

I understand that the story presently in the media remains to be authenticated by authorities but I am pretty sure a man as powerful as he is/?WAS would have discredited something so incendiary by now…IF it was untrue.  And certainly, a man who feels he is as ENTITLED as Mel Gibson APPARENTLY feels he is…would…if he could.

Mel, you once cinematically asked “What Women Want”.  I completely get it now, why you felt you did not understand the female psyche and needed to explore it.  Can I suggest to you that perhaps you have failed at that task?  Indulge me Mel and allow me to help you along on your path to enlightenment by letting you in on five things that women DON’T want.  A good starting point I think on your road to finding out what they DO.

1. Women DON’T want to be verbally and emotionally abused.

Called a “bitch”, “gold digger”, “whore”, “fuckin user”, “fucking bitch” and “cunt”.

Screamed at, demeaned, threatened and terrorized:

“you look like a fucking bitch in heat. And if you get raped by a pack of niggers it will be your fault. Alright? Because you provoked it.”

“You’re a fucking using whore…I own you.  You don’t count”

“And remember whose fucking roof you’re under! You ingrate bitch!”

“I will fire (name omitted) if she’s at your house. I will make it known and fire her. I’ll report her to the fucking people that take fucking money from the wetbacks, ok?”

“Stay on this phone and don’t hang up on me.  I have plenty of energy to drive over there.  You understand me!! AND I WILLLL!!”

“It’s my fucking money.  You understand?  You don’t have your own money.  You are only USING my money.”

“I am behaving like this because I know you absolutely do not love me and you treat me with no consideration.  I love you because I treated you with every kindness, every consideration, you rejected.  You will never be happy.  FUCK YOU!! Get the FUCK away from me.  BUT MY DAUGHTER IS IMPORTANT! Alright.  NOW!! You have ONE MORE CHANCE!  And I mean it. Now, fucking GO, if you want, but I will give you one more chance.  You make me wanna SMOKE.  You FUCK my day up.  You care about YOURSELF, when I am being so FUCKING good to you…You can just FUCKIN SMILE AND BLOW ME cause I DESERVE IT!”

“You’re a fucking fake. You’re a fucking sham. You don’t know what the fuck it means to make a man happy. You didn’t make me fucking happy.  You fucking glum cunt!”

“You have no FUCKING SOUL!”

“You are a dishonest cunt”.

“If you get raped it’s your fault, for starters. Showing off your fake tits! Like they’re some special deal?”

“You fuckin’ ignorant bitch! I don’t understand you! You’re saying stupid shit! How dare you fucking even insult me with some of the stupid reasoning you have? Your logic sucks, because you’re a fucking mentally deprived idiot!”.

“You go out in public and it’s a fucking embarrassment to me. You look like a fucking bitch in heat.”

“I will make your God dam life miserable”.

“I’m not giving you my house and you can rot unless you crawl back, suck my cock and say you’re sorry, in that order! Do you understand me?”

Regarding our breasts: “They look ridiculous…they look stupid…They look like a Vegas whore.”

“I NEED a WOMEN not a FUCKING little girl with a FUCKIN dysfunctional cunt”.

“You callous cunt. You never even say FUCKING thank you…Say thank you every five God Dam minutes and NOT call me mean and NOT look at me sideways. Just SUCK MY COCK…you fucking cunt whore.  That’s bout all you are good for cause that is all you are fucking good at.  Much better than fuckin music.”

“You’re in MY house. So I’ll call the police and tell them there is someone in MY house.  HOW BOUT THAT? …FUCK you.  I don’t involve the police in anything because I stand up for myself.  You, you WEAK cunt, you call the FUCKING cops. 

“You need a fucking kick up the ass for being a bitch, cunt, gold digging whore! … And I want my child, and no one will believe you! So fuck you!”

“How DARE you act like such a BITCH when I am being so FUCKIN nice”.

2. Women DON’T want you to abuse their children.

Verbally: “Look at your son. He’s a fucking mess. You fucking excuse for a mother.”

“gold digging whore! With a pussy son!”

Physically: When you physically assault us while we are holding your child and wound our infant daughter’s face. “And you hit her, whilst she was in my hands.”

Emotionally: Cause such fear in our child's caregiver that she feels compelled to take our child and hide from you.

Threaten to kill our children.

3. Women DON’T want to be physically abused.

Punched in the face while we are holding YOUR infant daughter.  AND, if you CHOOSE to assault us, we wouldn’t have “fucking deserved it."

4. Women DON’T want to be EXPECTED to service you sexually before we are ALLOWED to sleep, like a human slave.

“I deserve to be blown fast! Before the fucking Jacuzzi!”

““Waited and waited.  What, two and a half fucking minutes!? You’re fucking snoring. Don’t you dare.”

“I should’ve woken you up and said fucking blow me bitch! I should’ve fuckin woken you up and said blow me! You would’ve liked that better, yeah? But you need the goddamn sleep!”

  5.  Women DON’T want to have our lives threatened or endangered or taken.

       

You would think that one was obvious but I am guessing in your case, not so much.

Women DON’T want to have a gun pointed at our heads and have our lives threatened: "I will show you how to get out of here fast"

Oksana: “I am saving my life.  I saving daughter’s life.  I don’t give a dam about my music and I don’t give a dam about you spending another penny.  I am saving her life…you almost killed us.  Did you forget? You were hitting a women with a child in her hands.  You. What kind of man is that, hitting a woman when she is holding a child in her hands, breaking her teeth twice, in the face.  What kind of man is that?”

Covering our faces with your hand so we cannot breathe.

“Get a FUCKIN restraining order!  For what?  What are you gonna get a restraining order for?  For me being drunk & disorderly, for me hitting you, for what?

Choking us with your forearm pressing into our throats.

“I’ll burn the goddamn house up”

“You need a fucking bat in the side of the head.”

“I’ll put you in a fuckin rose garden you cunt! You understand that? Because I’m capable of it. You understand that?”

Mel?!?, there is SO much wrong with your monstrous behaviour on SO many levels.  Where to start?  You can start by giving up the belief that you are entitled to abuse women.  You are NOT!

Mel, it may surprise you to know that women actually have many rights in a relationship.  These rights include the right:

• To be respected by you (you may have to look that word up.)
• To change her mind (yes, she gets to do that Mel;  this is not Afghanistan)
• To be called no name that hurts or shames (see #1 above)
• To kindness from you (abuse is not kind)
• To emotional support from you (tearing her to pieces is not support)
• To have her own opinions, even if you disagree (once again, not Afghanistan)
• To have her own feelings (“Don’t you dare fucking complain to me! I don’t fuckin’ hear you!” would be denying her that right)
• To live free from physical threats (see #2, #3 and #5 above)
• To be listened to politely by you (that one will take SO much therapy)
• To live free from emotional threats (see #1, #2 and #4 above)
• To have her interests spoken of with respect (“I don’t think you CAN do it…That’s how little I think of your FUCKING talent!”)
• To live free from rage (you’re familiar with rage, right Mel)
• To be asked respectfully and not ordered (yep, that one will be a HUGE adjustment for you)
• And (this one, may well be beyond you) to not have sexual or physical contact with you when she chooses

It has been disturbing, after listening to those tapes, to then read comments online effectively defending Mel’s abuse and even condemning Oksana, but I suspect the defenders likely cannot bear to be reminded of their own history or their own behaviour and so are failing to call Mel on his own.

To anyone in Mel’s life who is afraid of calling him on his behaviour for what it is…outrageous, abusive, out of control, dangerous and unfit to be near a child, you are only reinforcing the status quo.  It doesn’t help Mel.  It doesn’t help the women in his life and it certainly doesn’t help his children.  This dangerous cycle he is living in must be broken with truth and then help.

Dear Judge in the custody case of Lucia:

With respect, if you understand those tapes to be authentic and the report that Mel punched his ex-girlfriend while she was holding their daughter Lucia turns out to be true, then Mel Gibson needs to be denied anything beyond supervised visitation for a period of at least six months until her gets serious help and a psychiatrist can attest to the probability of him punching his daughter’s mother in the face…again.   You also need to require him to turn over to the court the gun he threatened Oksana with and any OTHERS he may own. 

“You have my child and she doesn’t need a gold digging, fucking Russian cunt, whore for a mother! We all know what you are! I will have that child, easily.”

I know there is a perception of two classes of justice in Hollywood, one for regular folk and one for celebrities.  If you do anything less Sir/Ma'am, then you are failing Lucia.

Dear Oksana Grigorieva:

You did the RIGHT thing in recording your abusive boyfriend.  I only wish he wasn’t the father of your child as it would be best if you and Lucia stayed as far away from Mel Gibson as humanly possible. 

“No one will believe you.”

Mel was right at least once on those tapes.  No one would have believed you Ms Grigorieva and you could have potentially ended up like Nicole Brown Simpson leaving Lucia to be raised by the man who murdered you and then convinced a court "If the glove doesn't fit, you must acquit". 

Once custody is settled Ms Grigorieva, PLEASE have a third party transfer custody of Lucia until such time as a mental health professional can assure a court of law that it is safe to do otherwise.  If Mel Gibson does not get mental health treatment, then ignore the Mel apologists, protect your daughter and do whatever you can legally to keep him away from Lucia.

Dear Mel Gibson’s bigwig Hollywood handlers & Lawyers:

Don’t enable him.  Help him!  If you orchestrate Mel evade taking responsibility for punching the mother of his child in the mouth, while she was holding their child, you are responsible for what happens to Lucia next.  On your conscience.

Dear Robyn Gibson:

“I CAN’T GET like this ANYMORE!!”

If your ex-husband abused you and you want him to get help for your kids’ sake, don’t enable him any longer.  Tell the truth.  I do not mean to disrespect you after you have publicly stated Mel did not physically abuse you but you can understand, woman to woman, why I find it hard to believe after listening to THOSE tapes that Mel Gibson has SUDDENLY become a JUSTIFYING PHYSICAL ABUSER at his age.  From those tapes, Ms Gibson, it is also hard to believe that your ex has also SUDDENLY become a JUSTIFYING EMOTIONAL ABUSER at his age as well. 

Mel screamed on one of the released recordings, addressing Ms Grigorieva:

“I couldn’t make you happy with the BEST I DID FOR ANYBODY, EVER! EVER!”

For you and your seven children’s sake Ms Gibson, I pray that was not true?

If Mel didn’t abuse you and is having a serious mental breakdown or has grown a baseball-sized tumour in his head, please consider using the fact that he trusts you enough to submit an affidavit to the court on his behalf, to tell him the truth about his behaviour and request that he get help NOW for your children’s sake.

Dear Whoopi Goldberg:

I disagree with the majority who have condemned you for sticking up for your friend Mel.  I applaud you for telling the truth about your friend as you see it.  You believe that the Mel Gibson that you have had in your home and around your children is not a racist.  I am not sure I agree with you but if you believe he is not, then you did the the right thing in standing up for your friend.  A true friend walks in the door when everyone else is walking out.  In that respect you have been a true friend to Mel and true friends are GOLD.  That being said, if you and Mel are truly friends, then he needs more than that from you right now...a great deal more.  He needs his friend Whoopi to tell him the truth.  He needs his friend Whoopi to call him on the carpet and condemn his behaviour…not on The View, but to his face.  Be his friend Whoopi and call him on his abusive behaviour, for what it is, and then encourage him with every friend card you can play to get help.  That is what a true friend would do.

“So that’s why I’m so fucking angry, because I don’t have any friends! And I try and make one from you”

If you are his friend Whoopi, then be his friend because as ugly and outrageous as Mel’s behaviour is, he needs his friends now.

Dear Mel Gibson:

You seem to be very fond of Christ.  Well Sir, your behaviour would appal Jesus.  You do recall how Jesus treated women and children, don’t you?

“I’m MEAN!!! WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?”

“I’ve done nothing but be nice to you!”

Mel, the way you treated a woman on those tapes is so beyond ANY definition of mean and it was also the farthest thing from nice. 

“You’re not the fucking woman I want.”

Mr. Gibson, there is not a woman alive, with a shred of self-esteem who would WANT the man on THOSE tapes! 

Mel, you have some BIG problems.  You cannot solve these problems by yourself.  You need help.  If you do not get help, you are going to do something that even the most expensive Hollywood lawyers will not be able to extricate you from.  On one of the tapes you screamed:

“Take care of your fucking son and I better have my daughter!” 

“I’m so fucking sorry I had a child with you.”

As someone who has cares deeply for children, I am sorry that the man on THOSE tapes has children, let alone eight of them.  Your children deserve MUCH better Mr. Gibson.  It is clear that the women in your life CERTAINLY do. And Mel, you deserve much better too.  You are clearly suffering.  It does not have to hurt this much but it will only get worse if you refuse to get help…possibly MUCH MUCH worse.  Mel, I understand that you are seeing a therapist; it is not enough.  You need inpatient treatment, as soon as possible.  The man on those tapes is not fit to be within 100 yards of a child.  Your children need a father Mel but they do not need the man on THOSE tapes. 

This is a critical moment in your life Mel.  Embrace it.  Don’t run from it.  Your lack of mental health has been laid bare for the world to hear in the form of recorded rage, abuse and violence.  Get help…please!

On a personal note,

  THANK YOU to all the wonderful men out there who treat women with respect and who don’t abuse their kids.  Thank you!  I know that I speak for all women when I say…We LOVE you!

Godspeed Lucia, Oksana and Mel!

Next Blogum: August 2010

Sage Spencer